Media personality Dotun Kayode, popularly known as Do2dtun, has criticised the practice of burying deceased persons within residential compounds amid the controversy surrounding the burial of gospel singer Olayemi Bolaji, known as Toluwanisings.
In a series of posts on X, Do2dtun described home burial as an outdated practice, arguing that having a grave within a residential compound could cause emotional distress and anxiety for those living there.
He also questioned whether families would consider the same arrangement if the property were rented, adding that he saw little moral or spiritual justification for burying someone at home unless it was the deceased’s wish.
“Burying the dead in a residential area is an archaic and primitive method of burial. Waking up to a grave most times will increase anxiety and unending thoughts. If the house was rented, will you bury him there? What is the value, spiritual or moral standpoint of burying someone in their house? As for me, none, except if it’s their wish,” he wrote.
The media personality said the disagreements surrounding Toluwanisings’ burial were at odds with the late singer’s contributions through music and the lives he touched.
He urged those involved to focus on preserving the singer’s legacy and supporting his immediate family rather than allowing the dispute to overshadow his life and work.
“If a person you love dies, the peace they need is the peace you project to his family, friends and well-wishers in his absence. The energy you all are exerting can’t bring back the dead, so why don’t you channel it into respecting the dead and protecting his legacy,” he stated.
Do2dtun also argued that a deceased person’s spouse should have a leading role in decisions concerning burial arrangements, while family members may offer suggestions.
“I am sure he would have said, ‘Anything my wife says’, if he were here. Even if that’s not the case, in the hierarchy of rights, she holds the right over anyone. Yes, the family can suggest, but the partner holds the right, even his kids, before any family member,” he said.
He further criticised what he described as a sense of entitlement in some cultural practices, maintaining that marriage should be accompanied by respect for the spouse’s role in major family decisions.
“Our traditions and culture have been mixed with entitlement. Some people think they have the right to decide where a child is buried but forget it only matters in agreement with the partner’s decision or the children’s,” he added.
Do2dtun concluded by asserting that a spouse should take priority in burial and property-related decisions when there is no will.
His comments add to public reactions surrounding the disagreements over Toluwanisings’ burial, with other entertainers also calling for the family dispute to be resolved privately and for attention to remain on the late singer’s legacy.
