“I Used to Be a Womanizer” – Actor Daniel Etim-Effiong Reflects on His Past and the Lessons Learned
Nollywood actor Daniel Etim-Effiong has opened up about a former chapter in his life, candidly admitting that he once lived a lifestyle many would label as womanizing.
In a heartfelt conversation with Chude Jideonwo, the actor was asked whether he had ever been a womanizer. Initially cautious, Etim-Effiong responded, “Well, that depends on your definition of a womanizer.”
When Chude clarified “A man who dates multiple women at the same time” Etim-Effiong acknowledged the label, saying, “By that definition, maybe there was a time in my life when I was. Not for long stretches, but there were certain seasons where I explored. So, perhaps.”
Asked whether those were good times in his life, he responded thoughtfully, “Yes, because they were periods of learning. If I came out of it with valuable lessons, then yes they were meaningful.”
Etim-Effiong went on to share what those experiences taught him, particularly about the illusions of fulfillment often associated with such a lifestyle.
“I learned that certain things don’t bring the satisfaction you imagine they will,” he explained. “On paper, it might seem like the dream attention, excitement, options. But when you actually live it, the emptiness becomes clear.”
He also shared a powerful message for young people who may be tempted by the idea of being a “player.”
“It might seem cool to live that way,” he said. “But what many don’t realize is that habits become patterns. If you condition yourself to avoid commitment, to walk away when things get tough, or to always have someone else lined up that mindset doesn’t just disappear when you get married.”
Etim-Effiong emphasized that emotional discipline and commitment are muscles that need to be developed before marriage, not after.
“If you’ve spent years juggling multiple relationships and walking away at the first sign of conflict, you’re likely to carry that same behavior into your marriage. When challenges come and they will you might default to what you’ve always done: leave.”
The actor’s candid reflection serves as both a confession and a cautionary tale reminding others that growth, accountability, and self-awareness are key to lasting love and fulfillment.
