The Stark Reality of Being a Mother


The first time I was thrust with the job of being a mother that was seven years ago, I was excited, confused, overwhelmed but later hopeful.

It dawned on me that I was suddenly a student, in a school that had no recess and vacations. I was always learning and speedily too, as my tutor; motherhood had no time to slow down.

I quickly realized that I couldn’t do it all by myself, especially if I wanted to remain sane. So, I invited God to direct and guide me on this incredible journey, after all, wasn’t He, the one who blessed me with my child? He certainly should have the manual for raising him. My dearest, I became a prayer warrior.

Every mother must learn to consistently pray for their children. If you weren’t praying the moment you conceived, start praying when the baby is born. Pray against childhood diseases and sicknesses, pray against eating disorder, pray against teething problems, pray against delay in speech, pray against delay in walking, pray against careless and resentful caregivers, pray against unprofessional medical staff, pray against wicked people and circumstances coming close to your children as your children grow, so does your prayer requests. Don’t wait until your child becomes a teenager before you commence praying against rebellion, peer pressure, depression, suicidal thoughts, immorality and poor self-image. My dear start praying now, while that child is still a toddler.

After praying, you go a step further to anointing your child or children. Mummies, on a daily basis, anoint your child on the head or forehead and prophesy into the life of that child. All those promises on good health, length of days, wisdom, favour, prosperity, strength, confidence, peace, joy e.t.c declare them on your children daily before they leave for school. I vividly recall when my second son was becoming unruly in school, I was concerned. How would he learn properly if he was playing truancy, as a teacher, I knew that was destructive to learning. I prayed to God about it and it was impressed on me to anoint him while he was asleep and pray for him. This, I did every night for a long time until I began to hear positive comments from his teachers.

The stark reality of being a mother is that your antennae is always up, meaning that you are intuitive; you are never absent-minded. When you become a mother, you will wonder how to decipher when your child falls ill. Don’t worry, intuition will guide you. Just be vigilant. Mothers, never you conclude that your toddler is probably teething whenever he has a temperature and stay put at home instead of taking your child to a reputable hospital. A lot of mothers have lost their children this way to malaria and infections disguised as teething problems.

No wonder Jessica Lange said the natural state of motherhood is unselfishness. When you become a mother, you are no longer the centre of your own universe. You relinquish that position to your children. You will sometimes feel overwhelmed with being a mother to the extent of saying: “I am done with this, I give up.” My darling, remember that Almighty God, the giver of children has got your back. He would strengthen you always.

Hello, mummy, please be reminded that you are now your child’s number one role model; the manner at which you talk, the content of what you say, what you do is all in the glare, being watched by your child. Your child constantly imbibes what you do. For your beloved child, it is “do as mummy does and not as she says” so, be careful. Well at the end of the day, motherhood like Charles Stanley puts it “is a great honour and privilege yet it is also synonymous with servanthood”.

Welcome to the Mothers Club! May you reap bountifully the dividend of motherhood.

Jane Ikegulu
An Educator writes from Lagos
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08034786925 (SMS ONLY)

Jane Ikegulu

An English Educator writes from Lagos 08034786925 (SMS Only)

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